My Algerian Boyfriend

[Aisha-26]

Salam Alikom

I write to you all as new member and as an English woman who has fallen for an Algerian man. I have learned so much from him about religion and culture and I am very much thinking of converting from Christian to Muslim. I am reading the studying Arabic and reading all the books I can to learn before I go to the Mosque.

I would love to hear more about anyone in my situation, especially since my family are quite sceptical about my choices, or someone who can tell me a little more about any success stories?

xx

[Khokom]

Hello Aisha,

First of all i'd like to welcome you to algeria.com forum and I hope you enjoy your time here.

Since you asked for success stories, 2 of my uncles are married to english converts and they are all happy one has 2 boys and the other one has one little 1 year old boy. I must say i love half algerians half english kids they so cute mashallah, one of them though turned out to be darker than the other which is kinda funny hahaha.

Anyways, if you want to ask any questions about anything feel free to do so, I also have a few websites if you are interested which might help you in your current situation.

Have a great day.

Khokom.

[Aisha-26]

Thank you for your reply, Khokom.

I love my boyfriend very much. I am a little worried because he has a Court date soon and he wants my help. I am worried that as an Asylum Seeker, he might be deported. Do you know of any Asylum Seekers in England who have been deported?

My friend thought he might be using me for a passport. He is a loving man and I do not believe this. Besides, I am already married but separated. Is it true that he will not be deported if he has a serious girlfriend here? Any info you have I would be grateful. Thanks.

Salam

[Khokom]

Hi again

You could try the home office website to see how they would deal with your boyfriend's situation, however i think you would have a stronger case if you married him or say u had a kid with him... cos that way human rights get involved and all that. I am not saying he might get deported or might not... but he needs to ask other people many questions so that he learns from their experiences and he also needs to build a stronger case for his defense.

However, from your words it seemed like you are still married to someone already but you said seperated? Maybe its best if you sort out things with the other guy first so that you can then make a clearer decision regarding your boyfriend.

marriages for papers is unacceptable in islam... a man cannot marry a woman with the intention of devorcing her in the near future or to take advantage of her in any way... thats not the point of marriages and he sounded like he is commited to his religoin and to his culture...and if you love your boyfriend very much and you see that he is sincere and loving towards you and also you see that he has principles and is of good character then i dont think you have anythin to worry about... people try to put you off by sayin he is marrying you for papers... cos maybe they are jelous or dont want you to be happy or somethin like that.... but if you both love each other... and you both trust each other and are sincere towards each other then i dont see where the problem is.

Anyways, i hope that helps... and if you need any further questions please ask

Have a good night.

Khokom.

[Princess_Diana]

Dear Aisha

Before you commit yourself to anything, please take the time to hear the other side of the story at

http://www.faithfreedom.org/Articles...left_islam.htm

Also click on the testimonials at the bottom of that website page, and read them.

Whatever choice you make, please make sure it is your own.

Kindest regards
Diana

[Khokom]

Hi,

Yes there are 2 sides to every story. However, I would like to ask Aisha to do her research carefully and only convert when you have accepting what this religion offers. Do not believe everything you read, what people say are sometimes opinions and sometimes facts... but in islam our facts come from 3 sources, the first is the Quran, second is the Hadeeth and the last is the opinions of the scholars, last source being the last to turn to after checking the first 2.

There are answers to every question you might have regarding islam and there is a justification for everything we do. We dont do things just like that, we do them because we know why we have to do them and the consequences for not doing them. Bear in mind there are people out there who are trying to stop islam from reaching to the rest, but of course they have failed like many failed before them. They use lies and all kinda means to give out a bad image of islam to people, they interpret the quran and hadeeth in their own ways. Even we muslims arent allowed to interpret the quran and hadeeth just like that and believe what we choose to believe, no if this happened everything will be in chaos. There are scholars who interpret it so that we make sure we get the proper meaning and the proper understanding. When people decide to interpret things themselves thats when they misunderstand and they get the wrong ideas. But elhamdoulilah all praise be to Allah islam is still reaching out to people and is still unchanged, since prophet Mohammed pbuh brought islam till now, nothing has changed.

So Aisha, if there is any question you want to ask about anything, feel free to either email me or ask here, whichever you choose

Have a good day.

Khokom.

[Carmen]

Originally posted by Aisha-26
Salam Alikom

I write to you all as new member and as an English woman who has fallen for an Algerian man. I have learned so much from him about religion and culture and I am very much thinking of converting from Christian to Muslim. I am reading the studying Arabic and reading all the books I can to learn before I go to the Mosque.

I would love to hear more about anyone in my situation, especially since my family are quite sceptical about my choices, or someone who can tell me a little more about any success stories?

xx

HI Aisha,
You know? I´m a spanish woman and in 2003 I know a algerian man, since the first time I falled for him, he looked at me and I looked him....ummmm! uff! my heart explosed. I´m Christian like you, but I sincerily think there is´nt a problem. RESPECT, there is the solution, and talk bisef, your point of view, his,.....
I love this man like never loved before anyone, he is lovely, honest, goodman...., and the most important thing, he respects me like a women, he respects all my thougths....
He does´nt has the paper, but never think married me for have it. He doesn´t talk about this, me....yes! couse I think it´s the only solution here in Spain in this moment.
Goodluck Aisha! xxx