Why do my parents insist that....

[kerbacs2]

Hi guys, this is a sensitive subject. I don`t believe like my parents do, but I just want to see your views.
"Why does my parents esp my mother insist that I should get married to any woman but not a non-muslim woman, a morrocan woman and that it would be better if she is not from Oran.? I mean do anybody`s parents here think slightly the same or is it just my parents view in which case you dont have to answer me."
I would like people from different regions in Algeria to participate please!

[HOUDA-K]

LOL ~ I had a feeling when I opened your post that this will be about Zwejj. With all honesty, the Algerian men I know are all married to Non~ Algerian women in actual fact revert sisters and are extremely content within their marriage.

What I respect from Algerian men here in the UK {my observation from my experience only} is that the ones who obtain wrak are the ones who are genuinely interested in zwejj and will not marriage solely for obtaining a visa to remain indefinitely in the UK.

Back to your question, I know this for the guys, but I really can understand when a mother objects to certain suitors for her son. Al~humduillah, my parents are a living example to me that our past, both religious and cultural, are a means of strength for us, giving us the values, guidance, inspiration and identity we need to move forwards towards a fulfilling marriage.

[amina_imen]

Originally posted by kerbacs2

"Why does my parents esp my mother insist that I should get married to any woman but not a non-muslim woman, a morrocan woman and that it would be better if she is not from Oran.? I mean do anybody`s parents here think slightly the same or is it just my parents view in which case you dont have to answer me."

First, you wanted to know if other parents think the same...
No, for me. My parents don't judge people according to where they are from in Algeria
simply because there is the good and bad in everything.

I'm sure your parents (or your mum) has her reasons for saying that she doesn't want a Moroccan or Oranaise woman as a potential wife for her son as she must've had a bad experience when dealing with people from that part of the world, or more likely heard stories about them and thinks all girls from there should have a bad reputation...but didn't she tell you why?

[kerbacs2]

Hy, Iman, houda,
I think the usual argument is they are "s3ab".
salam

[amina_imen]

Originally posted by kerbacs2
Hy, Iman, houda,
I think the usual argument is they are "s3ab".
salam

What does s3ab mean? difficult? I have to disagree..Psychological characteristics cannot be narrowly allocated in such a geographical manner...how can girls from there be more difficult than those from other parts of the world? Sorry to disagree but it's just a healthy exchange of ideas as I lived in Oran although my parents aren't from there but I hate to be put in the sac like that..

But again, there is good and bad everywhere...

I's sure "s3ab" has lots of meanings in that context..

[kerbacs2]

Yes, may be s3ab here refers to women who like to take control.
salam

[HOUDA-K]

And what's wrong with a woman who takes control, or do you mean a woman who has her hubby around her little finger

Khoya, you're going to need to give us clarity and perhaps a longer explanation so we don't misunderstand your view on this topic.

P.s What's wrong with Moroccan women ~ khoya tread very carefully