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[BACK2MYROOTS]

Salam 3aleikum

I am not claiming to be a ''Fakir'' or an ''agony uncle''.

However, like a certain number of Alg.com users, I have some life experience and a very long standing interest in people and human relationships.

I am suggesting to start this thread, of course out of interest, but also to help those of us , young and not so young, to share their problems and worries with us and invite those with wisdom / life experience to help.

I think there may be a great need for this in this forum, where we are all like a big family.

So, fire away, brothers and sisters and see where we can take this thread.
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Here is an issue that has disturbed me for a little while

It's an issue we, Muslims, prefer not to talk about. I have only been able to give a very short answer to it. I cannot elaborate on it. Yet, it perturbs me and makes me feel useless to the colleague who raised it in confidence. So, here it is:

A colleague said to me,'' It has been revealed to me that my son is gay. He is a Muslim. What do I do? How do I deal with it? Should I disown him? Should I throw him out of the house? He is over 18''.
I have only been able to say, ''You know it's haram; that's all I can say''.

Any better answers?

B2MR

[Felicity]

Hate the sin, not the sinner?

[BACK2MYROOTS]

Hate the sin, not the sinner?

Hi FELICITY !


I can see what you mean FELICITY. It sounds like a laudable Christian viewpoint. It is generous and almost forgiving. You have to admire people who can adopt such an attitude. It makes it sound very simple, and it could be for some.

However, if you live your life by The Book [The Holy Book], whether the Quoran or the Bible, then being different in that way is viewed as ''an abomination''. It is of course very harsh on those who cannot help being that way, but...who makes the rules here??!

How can you separate the sinner from the sin here anyway?

It'a not like theft or infidelity, a one off event. It's a lifestyle thing.

When you see the sinner, you see the sin in this case. So, it's not that simple, is it?

Any more comments?


B2MR

[Felicity]

Well the boy is not only his sin, he is also the son that his parents brought him up to be (in personality), and he may sin, but does that mean that he loves God any less than you or me? I lie (unfortunately) and I'm sure I (however accidental) lie often, in general, I sin often in many different ways. Sins are not generally one off events.

Lastly, it is for God to judge and no one else. Know the person may have any punishment which God decides upon when they die and it is not for us to make anyones life worse while on earth, because of something that we deem is unnacceptable.