Can't be bothered with Algerian women!

[BACK2MYROOTS]

Please answer me this question:



It's less complicated for Algerian men to marry a non-Muslim girl / woman, isn't it ?
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Isn't that why so many Algerian & non-Algerian Muslim men end up marrying either women outside their faith, or if they're lucky to a Muslim revert?

But then, there's also this " zawaj al-mut3a" thing, isn't there? What's all that about?


[ [I]One 'supposedly Muslim' girl once asked me if I would be interested in that... then other things put me off her, so I avoided meeting her again, but that's another story. Digressing...!][/I]


Anyway, please don't hate me for asking the above questions.
Just would like to know.

B2MR

[Felicity]

what is " zawaj al-mut3a" ?

I think people just marry the people around them... so Algerian men who have emmigrated to the Uk, they marry people in the UK, and since the majority of them are not Muslim then... plus in the UK at least, they say that people from Pakistan prefer to marry other Pakastani's, and then that removes a large chunk of the UK Muslim population.

[Yazou]

Most Algerian men would probably agree that the biggest issue in marrying an Algerian women is families related issues (if you marry an Algerian woman, you marry her family as well!). You can't escape dealing with family head on. That's why you need to do your homework and find out what you are getting into... love is nice, but it means nothing when you are miserable or not happy!. Additionally, our culture, in general is not in favor of individuals disconnecting (for the sake of independece) from family... there is nothing wrong with such a culture, some love, some hate it.. a choice you make...

That was my opinion and sorry I am biased

[amalgamate]

It's less complicated for Algerian men to marry a non-Muslim girl / woman, isn't it ?

i'd say it's more complicated if one muslim man marries a non muslim woman bcz of major differences in religion. Huge obstacles and complications arise that you can avoid if you would've married a woman in your own deen and level of deen. I know of many personal stories of family friends who loose their kids to another religion. or when death occurs, the parents are fighting how to bury their child. it's a BIIG mess

maybe it'd be easier for muslim men to marry from a different culture- not different religion. it makes the relationship interesting and the problems that are faced are probably more manageable, being that you both are muslim.

[atakor]

It's less complicated for Algerian men to marry a non-Muslim girl / woman, isn't it ?

I would say Yes, it is easier simply because european or american women are independent, it's only their choice, the cousin of brother of the neighboor of their grandparents has nothing to do with this, and also because they don't care about heavy and costly (and useless) "parties".

but..it doesnt mean either that it is better.

I'm starting to think about getting married...well I AM thinking about it (i'm 25) but I really don't know what is best for me. I hate some things in my culture (like the overwhelming presence of families) and in the western one as well.


Anyway, may Allah grant every muslim who is single a good wife/husband.

[BACK2MYROOTS]

Well said atakor. I think most Algerian women are totally insensitive to the massive pressures young people are under when they are ready for marriage. All they have to do, it seems, is just sit there and be beautiful, then pick and choose. They don't have to prove their worth at all, while we the men, have to show that we have a good job/ career, a car, a house, loads of money etc etc. Not fair, is it?

Not only that, but in the West, there's no dowry and even better, the bride's parents are expected to pay for the wedding, not the other way around!!!

[atakor]

Hello,

yes but the situation changed a lot now, people meet in the university or office and decide to get married after getting in love with each other.. (but even in that case it is not very easy because you'll have to deal with the families as well.)
The problem is that for guys living in the west this is not possible at all ! so in a sens we are the outdated people (we stick to more traditional ways of marriage)..paradoxical isn't ?