Golden Rules for a Happy Marriage / Relationship

[BACK2MYROOTS]

Why do some couples stay together...?


...to celebrate their 40th, 50th or so wedding anniversary, while others don't survive 2 or 3 years? Some, seem to be doomed from the beginning, but the partners still go ahead and try to make a go of it.

Why is that?

What are they doing wrong?

What are the secrets of a successful relationship?

Post your viewpoints and suggestions here. We might learn something from each other...


...inshallah!

B2MR

[Felicity]

I think you have asked unanswerable questions...

[Bent_Bladi]

if a couple BOTH fear Allah, their love and marriage will last forever.

if one or both don't, their marriage doesn't have a chance.

[Felicity]

but that implies that two good Muslims would never divorce, but many Muslims do, but that doesn't necessarily mean they don't fear/worship God adequately enough. I suppose I could say your theory would be true for Catholics tho, as if they truly follow their faith, they cant get divorced...

[mohovitch]

Some people have more the ability to compromise than others. For them life in couple will be easier.

[Bent_Bladi]

no felicity - muslims don't just get divorced "nicely" (and while on the outside almost every muslim seems "good", there's are always hidden secrets about who they are) ........... when a divorce happens SOMEONE or BOTH forgot who they worship... it's when one person gets more selfish than the other...

people say - if you love each other you'll last, others say if you're financially stable and you love each other then you'll last ...

well love fluctuates, what happens when it's at a low? if they don't fear God and be patient - if they forget that their goal in this life is to be good enough to land in heaven in the next - then they'll crumble... same goes for money

and yeah for sure compromise is a huge part of it -- but it has to be equal from both sides...

idk if i'm making sense to anyone, but it all does in my head heh

[Drajah]

no felicity - muslims don't just get divorced "nicely" (and while on the outside almost every muslim seems "good", there's are always hidden secrets about who they are) ........... when a divorce happens SOMEONE or BOTH forgot who they worship... it's when one person gets more selfish than the other...

people say - if you love each other you'll last, others say if you're financially stable and you love each other then you'll last ...

well love fluctuates, what happens when it's at a low? if they don't fear God and be patient - if they forget that their goal in this life is to be good enough to land in heaven in the next - then they'll crumble... same goes for money

and yeah for sure compromise is a huge part of it -- but it has to be equal from both sides...

idk if i'm making sense to anyone, but it all does in my head heh

I see where you're coming from bent_bladi [awesome username ] and it's applicable for when people divorce for light reasons that, had they had the patience to work through and faith in God, they would have come out stronger in their relationship on the other side.

BUT on the other hand, you can be 2 practicing people with nothing in common. Your differences may be small, but over time they'll lead to sadness and heartbreak. To divorce is better than to stay in a loveless marriage IMHO.