The question is: would you?

[samir21]

Hi all,
Would you marry somebody from backhome. given that:

- You dont know each other well (I mean well).
- You really can never be sure why they would love you in case they do.
- Your mentality generally speking is incompatible with Algerian girls.
- You really don`t want to go down the English wife path for culture differences nothing more.
- You have no other choice, you dont know any decent Algerian candidates here.
- You also dont want to go/carry on going down the path of being single and all the consequences.

Your input is well appreciated.

[newyorker2]

Hello Samir
I don’t think any one can really give you a satisfying answer to this question. We all have different expectations and opinions when it comes to finding our better half.
I personally don’t think it’s a good idea just to go back home and find a wife in a short amount of time. Don’t get me wrong it works for some people. They get introduced, get to know each other. They find similarities. They might be attracted to each other and it works but I also think the fact of living out side the country is very attractive to some.
If you are willing on spending some time (few months or a year) there and getting to know the person I think is a good idea. Any way I don’t think I told anything diffrent other than what you really know but at least I tried. U never know where is maktoobek
Serendipity is the key to your future

[samir21]

Hi NewYorker,
How are you today?

your right, the fact that you are abroad is attractive to a lot which I dont blame them certainly given the situation in Algeria.
My calendar does not include any free time slot wider than a month and I have loads of things to do as well.

But as you said maktoub is mektoub.

But there has to be a solution also a voluntary one which initiates for the mektoub to happen not just sit back and wait for it.

[TonyStarks]

samir: I'm in the same position as you listed and I'd still marry someone from back home. I think in time, you will settle your differences.

[newyorker2]

Thanks for asking I'm doing great a bit stressed but nothing major.
I guess living out side the country has it's consequences too. I know what you mean by one has to make a move in order to make el maktoub take place. good luck find yours. I just sit back and wait for mine cause like u said there is very limited time for a visit and I think things would work out eventuly Any way i hope in'shl Allah

[samir21]

Originally posted by TonyStarks
samir: I'm in the same position as you listed and I'd still marry someone from back home. I think in time, you will settle your differences.

Thanks Tony,
Do you think? should one rely on lack to settle the differences?
and also some differences are physical such as the ability to speak english and an english diploma.

I am not worried about adapting to England she will eventually understand the culture.

[samir21]

Originally posted by newyorker2
Thanks for asking I'm doing great a bit stressed but nothing major.
I guess living out side the country has it's consequences too. I know what you mean by one has to make a move in order to make el maktoub take place. good luck find yours. I just sit back and wait for mine cause like u said there is very limited time for a visit and I think things would work out eventuly Any way i hope in'shl Allah

Dont ever sit back lol I dont mean to to tell you what to do but I think thats what an independent woman should do