dating advice

[katee]

hello,
After looking over this site, I have noticed a few ladies married to Algerian men. I would really appreciate some candid advice. I have been dating an Algerian man for 2 months and just recently we were discussing religion, specifically mine. I was raised catholic although I am not a practicing Catholic,I mentioned to him that honoring my families HOLIDAYS, IE. Christmas, Easter is important and that I would not give that up. He continues to tell me that he cannot part take in any Holidays that promote or resemble Christianity. The most important part is that he is not a practicing Muslim. He observes some Holidays and does not eat pork but he goes to bars, drinks etc.. He says that once he marries, he will begin to practice and be a good Muslim. I guess I want to know if anyone has worked through this? What has been your experiences been?
Katee

[Tracey]

I was interested to read your comments.The fact that you are questioning certain things at an early stage is a good thing -better to sort things out now than leave problems to fester and grow more complicated.

I don't know where you are living but I am in the UK and to be quite honest it's going to be difficult for a non-Christian to avoid confronting Christian holidays unless they go around with a bag on their head!(particularly Christmas).My husband has never made a big issue of this and has always accepted that I would see my family at Christmas time(I'm not practising either).One year, Ramadan and Christmas coincided-so we went to my family on Christmas day but no-one started to eat until about 4pm(when the sun rises). You have to respect each others religion for this to work, especially so when you aren't strictly practising it yourself!

Good luck
Tracey

[anna3]

It is good you are asking questions in the early stage of getting to know your boyfriend. I am married to an algerian we got thought the holidays with no problems. He even got me some xmas presents! I did not expect any! He said he did in the name of Allah. give nd take has to be met on both sides. I suggest that you you read up on his religion this has really helped me. that why you will understand him better. Good luck