Algerian wedding...

[New_Friend]

Hi Rosie,

Congrats on your blossoming online courtship and your engagement! Only a note of caution, however, as you said you have already accepted his marriage proposal: Are you speaking with him regularly via telephone? Have you had all the long, long conversations necessary to really get to know him? Do you know what makes him smile, what makes him cry, what makes him so excited he can't sleep at night, and likewise, what keeps him up worrying sometimes? Do you know his family? Does he know yours? Are you ready to commit as lifetime partners, or are you only willing to try an adventure? If you have a faith, have you fully discussed with him any similarities or differences, and when things get tough (as they inevitably will!), will you be able to fall back on a mutual faith either in God or in your own human potential?

If you are ready to meet, you may want to consider going to Algeria to visit him first. It's very important to get a sense of where a person comes from -- their family roots as well as their cultural roots. In my case, I met my ex-husband in the U.S., and only later on realized what a strong hold the negative aspects of his culture still had on him. Sadly, although I really wanted to go and meet his family, he was never willing to take me to Kabylia. He always said it would be "in the future," but we never stayed together long enough to even have a chance for it. I fell in love with Kabyle culture anyway -- even though I've still never been there. As a Christian, though, I know that one day I will go there and dance and celebrate with the quickly growing Christian church there. I can't wait for that day....but I don't know when it will come.

But back to dating....just go slow...be 200% honest about everything....and don't hold back from sharing your innermost fears, hopes and desires. Love really does exist...and for those of us who once had it but lost it...we can only encourage you all the more, if it is REAL, let it happen....for such love is a gift from God that only a few in this life truly find.

Take care and let us know how your trip goes! ; )

"New_Friend"

[nouha]

very good post new freind

rosie.... i dont think u should go throught with it unless u have met his family and he has met yours....

many algerian men marry american women just for the green card... trust me... im algerian and i noe families in algeria who tell their sons to find one way or another to find a western women just for the papers....

and by him not even meeting u and just proposing liek that probably means hes after the green card.... a real man would learn about his future wife, meet her family MEET HER etc....

seriously BE CAREFUL .... good luck

[anka]

hadi u're the only reasonable person on this forum today. i completely agree with u. if the love is real, u know that and feel that without asking.

salaam!

[Sweet_Pea]

Originally posted by nouha
very good post new freind

rosie.... i dont think u should go throught with it unless u have met his family and he has met yours....

many algerian men marry american women just for the green card... trust me... im algerian and i noe families in algeria who tell their sons to find one way or another to find a western women just for the papers....

and by him not even meeting u and just proposing liek that probably means hes after the green card.... a real man would learn about his future wife, meet her family MEET HER etc....

seriously BE CAREFUL .... good luck

Nouha, it starts here and then later move up to the main page. The posts usually start with 'An algerian married me for his ...'

[wahrani333]

ya we are crazy like that...what kind of yacht?

[friendship]

iF you don't love him then why marry him, pretending that you do wouldn't work.2 months is a short time and things can change so quickly.be careful.