Algerian wedding...

[Rusanka]

I have an Algerian boyfriend. Our relation not very long and inimate. But some days ago he asked me marry him, and i said "ok, i will marry u, if u buy me a yacht" He promised to buy it after 2 month. i thought his offer was not serious, but now i m not sure. He builds a plans where r we gonna live and where we ll spend next summer. Is it normal for Algerians marry a girl after dating for 2 month?

[SoccerMaster]

Hello there, I am Habib an Algerian male living in canada.
just to tell you that we Algerians (90% of us) when we meet our first love its always going to be our life partner. we do not have that idea of having to go through 10 or 20 girlfriends to get married. so if you see that he is a good guy and that he is serious then i would say that he is REALLY in love with you and wants to stay with you.

NOTE: it would be a big and better surprise for him if you tried to convert to ISLAM, but im not forcing you to do anything, just keep it in mind.

[Rusanka]

He is really good guy and i love him, but i would like to know him better.
And what about family? I thought that muslims depend on their parents too much. I mean, that they have to meet with the girl their son going marry and say if they let him marry that girl, and it is not good if fiancee is foreigner. Is it?
Else one: I heard about tradition in Algeria that fiancee can choose a marriage present, and fiance have to give it her, is it truth?

[blue79]

i think in every country, before u marry, u must introduce ur bf/gf to ur parents

[esther]

Hello Rusanka,
I want to tell you more about getting married to an Algerian man. I have met an Algerian man also and we want to get married insha'Allah. I did the Shahadah 14 november 2003. So now I am a muslimah. I have read a lot of books about Islam and marriage. If you want to mary your boyfriend it is better to convert to Islam. But of course he can't force you because only you can make that choice. In Holland we have a saying: two believes on one pillow, the devil sleeps between. This meand that it is very difficult to keep a marriage between partnerts with different believes. I can give you some advice: read more about Algeria, talk to other women who are in the same situation, read the Holy Koran and talk with your boyfriend. I want also to say that `having relationships before marriage is haram (bad). If your boyfriend is a good muslim he must mary you.
Good luck,
Esther

[Carmen]

Hi all!, I think it is not necessary to convert to Islam, you can love someone with independently of its religion. The respect is the key (I think so).
I have a algerian boyfriend too.He is lovely, he is nobleman, he is the man of my life, but I´m sure he´ll never ask for me to chance my religion, and the other hand I think religion is something inner of each person. I love him and he loves me and that´s the most important.
when you decide to share your life with somebody is necessary to speak (to talk) and to establish bases.He is muslim, ok, I respet him very much, I´m Christian and he respet me too.
Goodluck to all.
Ps: why always the women have to convert???????

[New_Friend]

Rusanka,

"Love" is great at the beginning, but make sure you spend enough time getting to know each other....so that precious love can last a lifetime!

I married an Algerian fellow after dating for six months. It was too short, because a month after marrying, I learned that he had majorly deceived me .... he was already married to another woman and had a son he never told me about. It took me a long time (a couple of years) to get over the heartbreak....because I had genuinely loved this guy. By by God's grace, I have moved on, forgiven him, and I still pray for him often.

My basic point is: don't rush into marriage; it is one of the most sacred gifts God gives to us in our lives, and we must be prepared to nourish it carefully.

Note to Carmen: The women DON'T always have to convert! ; ) See 1 Corinthians 7:15 when you need a little encouragement on this.

Ask a lot of questions to your S.O. and most of all, PRAY about your decisicions.