Choosing a wife/husband?

[Abdu23]

Alright buddies,
Marriage seems more like a women’s business, but let’s talk about it. I did not want to spoil the mixed-marriages thread, so I started this one to hear from you guys about the criteria that you think are necessary for your partner? How about the ideal age for marriage, both for the men and women? How would you rate a person (/10), if you want to evaluate her as a partener?
For me it goes like this:
- religion /4 points, basically to get 3/4 you must pray ur 5 prayers in time (otherwise I would just marry one of the 36 proffesional models around me )
- beauty /2 points (hmmmmmmmmmmmm,too long to describe)
- education /2 points (Phd = 2, Msc = 1.7, Bsc = 1.5 )
- social background 2 points (Algerian upper-class( we r not talking about rich ppl here, just at the top middle class = 2/2,morrocan upper class = 1.7/2

What do u guys think about? what do guys look for in a woman, and a woman look for a man?
A vous... I hope these are "politically correct" questions.

[TonyStarks]

Personally, i'd say

Religion 5 points - must pray 5 times a day, hijab, etc..
Beauty 3 points - she has to look good
Personality 2 points - since we're spending the rest of our lives together, she has to have a good personality.

However, since my mom will probably choose my wife she'd turn out like:

Beauty 8 points
Religion 1 point
Personality 0.5 points
and she'd be missing the last 0.5 points somewhere.

In both cases she would be Kabyle though !!! No disrespect to other Algerians but i gotta maintain the tradition.

[annibal]

Hello all


Abdu23, what are you compting?

"quand on aime on compte pas .."

Anyway you can still get some thinking, but you will always shoose the one, your heart prefer....even


annibal

[Khokom]

Originally posted by annibal
Hello all


Abdu23, what are you compting?

"quand on aime on compte pas .."

Anyway you can still get some thinking, but you will always shoose the one, your heart prefer....even


annibal

Ok we can clearly see that Annibal's only condition is LOVE, you love you get married? LOL wow what a brave man, are you saying you will ignore the other "important" characteristics in a gurl? hahahah

Abdu23,

Seems like you have a list of Terms and Conditions LOL Ok I agree with you, religion comes first, the rest can be negotiated, you cant always have a perfect gurl... she might be 7/10 or 6/10 ... ok The other very important thing you didnt mention is:

Not only you have to make sure she is the right one for you, but you gota see it from her side as well, does she think you are right for her? Do you have what she looks for in a husband? LOL you have to both fit each other's requirements for a succesful marriage to exist.

" el tayyiboon li tayyibaat " This is the answer for the questions I just asked above.

Lets hear what some of the sisters' requirements are. I can tell you right now what you will hear from the sisters, its simple. He has to be a Brad Pitt look alike and very rich. LOOL Just teasin.

Take care,

Khokom.

[Carmen]

Bravo Annibal!!! I´m totally agree with you...the most important thing is LOVE (don´t doubt it).
Khokom....what things are negotiated?? really do you think that personal characteristics are negotiable?...you know? I think you´d never been in love (really really love)...couse if you were....ay!!you couldn´t think and talk like that...(sorry for my english...but I know you understand me!)
Ok...religion for you is important...but the FIRST?.... I´m more emotional, I follow my heart and my personal beliefs (religion) are mines and they don´t have to affect my relation with my boyfriend or my husband.
Live without love??? no thanks!...like friends??? no thanks! like brothers? noo thanks!...when one person meet (couse it´s impossible look for it!) .... when the destiny presents you the love of your life.....it´s wonderfull....you when he´s sad you´re sad too, when she smiles you smile too..you´re happy , when she watches you at your eyes and she touches your hand ....shock!!! your body can´t resist! (well...., I´m not going to continue speaking couse I know there is
people who can´t understand this)
For me:

1)Love
2)good person
3)intelligence
4)tolerant (open mind!!)

[luvlynadia]

well my ideal husband would have to be a v.good muslim so that he could lead me onto the right path,, of course he would have to be good looking if im gunna have to spend the rest of my life wiv him,,,jokin,, but i already no who im marrying and i would give him 200 outa 100 for good looks,, personality is quite important too coz i gotta get on wiv him ,, social class is not all important but hes gota work and have a suitable income,,, again my fiancee is doin ok on this subject as hes got his own buisness,, preferably id like a educated person with some university background, this is what my fiancee lacks as he passed his alevels and didnt wanna go to uni ,, oh well nevermind il be the brains of the relationship xxxxxxxx

[Abdu23]

Hello guys, what's up.. It's kinda funny, I thought that wwass a gurls business, and only guys replied hahaha.

Anni: R u married to Alice au pays des merveilles

Tony: LOL, this reminds me of some women sitting in marriages and looking around for Good looking chicks God thanks I am not a woman.

Khokom: of course I have to consider what are the requirements from the other part.. that's the way I set my "creteria" dude.. Even if Sharon Stone wanna mary me, I would not accept, she has IQ of 156 I think and I have around 150, she looks good and I am ugly she is richa nd I am poor.. let apart the religion..
U r right the girl should have 7-9/10 on my scale since my sis/ cousins would score that much, so I guess I do the same on the women's scale if she get's 10, she too good for me, I can not accept that, even is she does

Actually, according to recent studies I did on my cousins (girls) I got something like out of 10 couples:
- 2 are perfect match.
- 3-4 are OK, balanced to some degree.
and 4-5 Are a lame.. I cann't understand how they accepted their husbands; imagine a beautiful girl, that has a higher degree then her husband (I guess he did not even see Univ), is young, and best of all, she is the only one working, both home and outside to feed the children.. That's no fair dude!