marriage and internet

[khaddouj]

Hi all

Looking for your soulmate/spouse using internet, what do you think about such initiative.

Any experience on this ? Any testimony ?

What do you think of an Algerian who would do this ?

Please share.

I am serious in questioning and expect the same from the other future posters.

thanx in advance.

[HOUDA-K]

Hello ~Khaddouj~

Welcome to this forum.

You should try to socialize and make friends with Muslims of your own gender and let them know that you are thinking of getting married. If they are genuine friends, they will not mind in you putting forward your intention of marriage. Once a compatible Muslim is found, then you can take it further from there. Actually a true Muslim is the one who will be making an active effort to help you out in getting married. A good way to get to know Muslims is by joining some Islamic classes at your local Mosque.

Let your local Imam (prayer leader) know of your intentions as well. Many times they have knowledge about prospective marriage partners.

I really don’t know how effective online Muslim matrimonial sites are. I only know of one Moroccan who used a martimonal website to find her present husband and masha Allah they are extremely content

Maybe as a last resort, if everything else fails, you can join those sites. Please make sure that you adhere to the rules and regulations of socialising with the opposite gender. Once you find someone who you are interested in, do involve a third pious/reliable person in all your correspondence with that prospective partner.

Take care

[amina_imen]

Khaddouj, if you are asking about whether it is good or not, then I personally don't see anything wrong with it.
I know two Algerian married couples who met through the net and I know there a lot more of them out there..I don't think it is strange or bad nowadays at all.

I think it could be risky though and one has to be extra careful as you don't know who the person really is through some messages they leave for you.

As for matrimonial websites or agencies, I personally have no stories to share, but I wouldn't go against the idea.

Some people still regard it as a bad thing but I think that this is due to the low success rate of such meeting options!!

Take care

[Bibi_Nasima]

I think when it comes to internet dating the rules that apply to everyone applies to Algerians as well. You don't know who the freaks are and be careful! Meet in a public place, do not give out personal information such as where you live etc and do NOT DRINK on your date so that you can keep your track of what's going on and if he's skeevy

[khaddouj]

Thank you very much for your nice replies.

Well, indeed I must be extra careful. I am really a suspicious person by nature, but as in my actual life, I do not have many opportunities to meet compatriots, I gave it a try. My parents (well my mother only) are aware that I look for a husband online.
I have sorted out the numerous answers I have received and now I am just wondering what would be the next steps to take.

[khaddouj]

>Please make sure that you adhere to the rules and >regulations of socialising with the opposite gender.

What do you mean by that Houda ? If it is to be honest, respectful, decent and so on. I certainly wouldn't allow anyone who doesn't respect those tacit rules to talk to me anymore.
If there is more to that, please tell me , Houda, I really appreciate all your interventions on this website BTW.

Here I am getting more technical .
Here's an issue I would like to submit to you and all boardess: What do you think about sending your pic to the other person before eventually meeting, how do you feel about that ?
Is there a different perception of a man sending his photo and of a woman doing the same.

[Bibi_Nasima]

For what this is worth, I tried online dating a very long time ago. My views are probably different because its more of a western view and doesn't have anything to do with religion.

I would recommend that you definitely get a picture of him, and be sure to ask him if it's current.

I didn't do this and as a result had a date with a guy that had a blue tooth (yes blue), another was so short he barely came to my shoulders in height, another looked about 20 years older than he said he was and so it goes on.

Also, make it short, go for coffee at a bookstore or coffee shop, make sure it's very public place. You don't want to be stuck having dinner or lunch with someone that you may not find so interesting after meeting, and besides, 1st dates can be uncomfortable