Would you marry him?

[NinaGucci]

Would you marry him even if you did not have the same intellectual level but he is the most decent man you ever met in your life?

would you marry him if he promisses you that he will do all what he can to become as intellectually advanced as you?even if it's gonna take time

would you marry him even if you knew that you're the one who will bring him out of the shi...and you may loose everything at the end?

would you marry him if you loved each others to bits but nobody can see why you are so much in love with him, including yourself?!

would you marry him even if he was not exactely the person you were dreaming of before you met him (physically and intellectually) but you have not seen anyone as kind and with a pure heart as him?

what is more important at the end of the day?:
- to have a handsom smart guy with a lot of money, who is loved by your familly but who is not a real man who can take care of you whatever happens, and who you don't really love?
- Or to be with someone who promisses you he would try to become this dream man if you marry him but who is not very appreciated by your familly eventhough you believe, he is te love of your life?

do we go for LOVE or LOGICS?

[Mourad_A]

Hello Nina

In my opinion, the most important thing in ANY relationship is 'respect'. Someone can be respected for many things, each one has their own priority for these things. These can be wealth, intellect, beauty, social standing, integrity, piety, wit, etc.

It depends upon the individual's personal preference as to what they value higher or lower. i.e. It is the order in which they prioritise their values.

If the partner has a large amount of the quality that the other one 'respects' the most, then that relationship will be based upon a high 'perceived value', and will last for a long time........

but if the priority in which you place your values changes, (when people grow older they change their priority of values) then you will cease to respect the qualities that person possesses in the same way as before, so the relationship will become 'stretched'.

Or, .....or the partner looses those qualities that you value highly....e.g. beauty fades or the rich lose their money, then the relationship will deteriorate....because the high value basis of the relationship has dissipated.

IMO, the key to a successful relationship is choosing someone who holds their values in a similar priority to your own, and who will change them in a similar way to your own, as you grow older together....

[flyinghorse]

Originally posted by NinaGucci

Would you marry him even if you did not have the same intellectual level but he is the most decent man you ever met in your life?

would you marry him if he promisses you that he will do all what he can to become as intellectually advanced as you?even if it's gonna take time

would you marry him even if you knew that you're the one who will bring him out of the shi...and you may loose everything at the end?

would you marry him if you loved each others to bits but nobody can see why you are so much in love with him, including yourself?!

would you marry him even if he was not exactely the person you were dreaming of before you met him (physically and intellectually) but you have not seen anyone as kind and with a pure heart as him?

what is more important at the end of the day?:
- to have a handsom smart guy with a lot of money, who is loved by your familly but who is not a real man who can take care of you whatever happens, and who you don't really love?
- Or to be with someone who promisses you he would try to become this dream man if you marry him but who is not very appreciated by your familly eventhough you believe, he is te love of your life?

do we go for LOVE or LOGICS?

We have to follow our heart, this is all what counts. If we don't, we will regret earlier or later.
Sometimes we have to make decisions against the general opinion of our environnement and its inhabitants.

[Bent_Bladi]

Originally posted by NinaGucci

Would you marry him even if you did not have the same intellectual level but he is the most decent man you ever met in your life?

would you marry him if he promisses you that he will do all what he can to become as intellectually advanced as you?even if it's gonna take time

would you marry him even if you knew that you're the one who will bring him out of the shi...and you may loose everything at the end?

would you marry him if you loved each others to bits but nobody can see why you are so much in love with him, including yourself?!

would you marry him even if he was not exactely the person you were dreaming of before you met him (physically and intellectually) but you have not seen anyone as kind and with a pure heart as him?

what is more important at the end of the day?:
- to have a handsom smart guy with a lot of money, who is loved by your familly but who is not a real man who can take care of you whatever happens, and who you don't really love?
- Or to be with someone who promisses you he would try to become this dream man if you marry him but who is not very appreciated by your familly eventhough you believe, he is te love of your life?

do we go for LOVE or LOGICS?

yes to all! i know ppl who went through situations like that and now they are the best/cutest couple

[NinaGucci]

yes to all! i know ppl who went through situations like that and now they are the best/cutest couple [/B][/QUOTE]

that's so sweet of you, but just to update you on that sort of relationship (which im not saying is mine lol) it gets stronger with time and i do agree with you, we have to prioritise qualities that last forever, not beauty, not monney, not social class because all of these will go one day. by growing, i would say not even intellectual abilities because now these have to be updated every single day with all the new technologies and developements, so there is no point going for a guy with a happy shiny PhD! and then he would just be the most ignorat person in the world as he only knows about his PhD subject!
i think we should prioritise things like, kindeness, bravour and honnesty. these sound like simple words but if you think about it, you would realise they are the most basic qualities and yet the most rarely found in men.
i think a man with a kind heart can protect you, forgive you and surprisingly love you! forever.

[NinaGucci]

Originally posted by Bent_Bladi

Originally posted by NinaGucci

Would you marry him even if you did not have the same intellectual level but he is the most decent man you ever met in your life?

would you marry him if he promisses you that he will do all what he can to become as intellectually advanced as you?even if it's gonna take time

would you marry him even if you knew that you're the one who will bring him out of the shi...and you may loose everything at the end?

would you marry him if you loved each others to bits but nobody can see why you are so much in love with him, including yourself?!

would you marry him even if he was not exactely the person you were dreaming of before you met him (physically and intellectually) but you have not seen anyone as kind and with a pure heart as him?

what is more important at the end of the day?:
- to have a handsom smart guy with a lot of money, who is loved by your familly but who is not a real man who can take care of you whatever happens, and who you don't really love?
- Or to be with someone who promisses you he would try to become this dream man if you marry him but who is not very appreciated by your familly eventhough you believe, he is te love of your life?

do we go for LOVE or LOGICS?

yes to all! i know ppl who went through situations like that and now they are the best/cutest couple

[NinaGucci]

yes to all! i know ppl who went through situations like that and now they are the best/cutest couple [/B][/QUOTE]

that's so sweet of you, but just to update you on that sort of relationship (which im not saying is mine lol) it gets stronger with time and i do agree with you, we have to prioritise qualities that last forever, not beauty, not monney, not social class because all of these will go one day. by growing, i would say not even intellectual abilities because now these have to be updated every single day with all the new technologies and developements, so there is no point going for a guy with a happy shiny PhD! and then he would just be the most ignorat person in the world as he only knows about his PhD subject!
i think we should prioritise things like, kindeness, bravour and honnesty. these sound like simple words but if you think about it, you would realise they are the most basic qualities and yet the most rarely found in men.
i think a man with a kind heart can protect you, forgive you and surprisingly love you! forever.