Cheating

[NinaGucci]

this is a very very sensitive subject and we all have different opinions about.
i know u guys hate to get out of the ordinary but think always about special cases.
what happens if you cheat, for some specific reasons, on your partner that you truly love?
you didnt cheat because you were attracted to a stranger or anything like that, but because somebody you trusted and known as a friend, suddenly started to love you too and couldnt control himself and you couldnt push him because u were too embarassed when he got stronger than u, u were too afraid to feel u r raped by someone u trusted.
how can u explain this to the man that you love? would you keep it a secret to save your relationship because this is something unexcusable and innexplicable? or would you say what happend knowing that whatever you say, it will always be seen as BAD.even me, personaly, i am convinced it is BAD, but i am convinced that she is a VICTIM too.
how would you explain to an algerian man these things?
i remember, older (maybe our grand mothers) women in algeria, used to hide many things, and have many secrets in thier lives, to save their families, their children and their future. was it a good thing? or was it not right?
i know relationships should b based on honesty, but are there things we better keep them secret,because we are 100% sure that they will definitely destroy everything we built.

[FORTUNATO]

Originally posted by NinaGucci
....but because somebody you trusted and known as a friend, suddenly started to love you too and couldnt control himself and you couldnt push him because u were too embarassed when he got stronger than u, u were too afraid to feel u r raped by someone u trusted.............

Saha Nina
Its seems to me that this thread is for ladies,

but expetionaly I give it a try as a member as well

.... No one WOULD EVER beleive that a lady accept to open up because the supposed freind is strong? nobody will beleive that because you was embarassed you accept to be raped.......

But from your title you are talking about "Cheating" so I beleive that this is cheating and should be a secret in a society like Algerian.

Take care

[NinaGucci]

Originally posted by FORTUNATO

Originally posted by NinaGucci
....but because somebody you trusted and known as a friend, suddenly started to love you too and couldnt control himself and you couldnt push him because u were too embarassed when he got stronger than u, u were too afraid to feel u r raped by someone u trusted.............

Saha Nina
Its seems to me that this thread is for ladies, but no one could beleive that a lady accept to open up because the supposed freind is strong? nobody will beleive that because you was embarassed you accept to be raped.......

But from your title you are talking about "Cheating" so I beleive that this is cheating and should be a secret in a society like Algerian.

Take care

to b honest with u, i think anybody should b in that situation to understand it. it s very tricky and is between two things, cheating and being abused. when i said, raped, i didnt mean proper sexual rape, but rape at our limits (i dont wanna go in details but i know u understand me). i dont wanna argument against anyone, i just wanna know if there is one man on earth who would forgive this, regardless of the reasons, because i see that there is no point explaining how the girl became a victim, cause us, algerians, tend to be very strongly against any woman who put herself in this situation, even in those case where she is raped, for real,she is still the EVIL.
if u keep it a secret, how can u live with it?is it possible for true love and happy relationships to make u forget this pain, and these bad memories? is it possible that the man you love, makes you forget the man who betrayed your trust because of his weakness, not his evilness?

[FORTUNATO]

Hi Nina
Yes I understand you says; but there is one thing called RESPONSABILITY ....and that must apply to both man and women, I think that you will find a man who will forget but not much very very rare...

There is an Algerians saying "....El hchouma tweleed el***..." or something like that....


TAKE CARE

[k-s]

You mean your realtionship with this friend who dares to make a move on you knowing that you have a partner is more important than your relationship with your partner.

It depends also on your personality, whether your colleagues get the impression you are easy to make such a bad move on.

So yes i think depends on your social skills and how you impose yourself as a social entity in your ingroup.

[Sweeter_Pea]

Cheating and rape are two different issues. Cheating is something one chooses to do and my understanding is that there is a don't ask don't tell policy regarding this in most societies. It's not just one gender that engages, both do. For every cheater out there is someone that is willing to cheat with him or her.

Rapist *#&$*#$&*&. I think people do hide this, men and women alike. It's a hard thing to admit that someone violated one that way. But, times are changing and women (and some men) are more vocal about it. This type of violence only stops when people speak up and therefore taking power away from the cowards that engage in this powerplay.

[Sweeter_Pea]

Samir, regarding your comment, it doesn't matter what somone's personality is like, it does not give anyone the right to force themself on them.

Originally posted by k-s
It depends also on your personality, whether your colleagues get the impression you are easy to make such a bad move on.