Advice from Algerian Sisters

[k_s]

This is something that it might be late for me to do anything about it.

When I used to live in Algeria, I knew a girl, she was our neighbour, let`s cat it short I never felt love towards her. She also never showed me love and was a bit aggressive towards me (as in wants to quarrel with me always).

We seem to make one mistake during an evening, nothing much just a bit of touching in the hair. That meant nothing to me it was just a like teenage thing.

After I came to the UK this girl kept sending me emails and I kept responding because I thought she was a friend.

She once sent me a red flower 3eed card, so I was alarmed emmidiately and let her know that we are just friends, and she made fun of my paranoia and said of course it was just friendship.

Few months later she send me a very long message saying she always loved me, that she used to be aggressive to hide her feelings, and mentioning the evening gestures, which I thought she was trying to manupulate the events.

Anyways after she kept explainin why she loves me, I thought yes true I had those things but I still didn`t believe her. And most importantly I dont love her, I like her a lot as a friend.

What I did is not to reply to her message. Now I feel a bit guilty because when I read her message again she talks about how difficult it was for her to lconfess her love to me after I broke her heart by saying we are just friends.

My questions is: shall I reply? I have plenty of things to say but I am afraid she will take it the wrong way and start talking about love again.

confused.

[phylay]

Anyways after she kept explainin why she loves me, I thought yes true I had those things but I still didn`t believe her.

Fort ya kho

I know it wasn't an advice but well I am not a sister either

[k_s]

it`s serious stuff a girl may be truely having difficult times and I wona do something if its the case.

[nedjma95]

Ok K-s my dear
There is nothing better than honesty ,and harsh hoensty , if you really have no feelings for this girl and for sure you dont want her as a partner one day ,then you need to let her know .
You have to be clear and breif ,I know this may be to harsh but you have to stop her from hoping more , she needs to know that there is no hope with you what so ever , and maybe she is not even looking around her to see a better opportunity , someone who really loves her that she could love,she needs you out of her mind so she can move on . It may take her time but she will .So brief and clear , and forgive my harshness but I personnaly think you should not wright to her any more for a while . So she'll know you are serious . Hope it helps , good luck

[k_s]

Thanks Nedjma It has been months since she wrote that message and I didn`t reply. So in those terms I think she might have already forgotten now and moved on.

I think I follow your advice and carry on. The problem this girl is close from the family and it`s gonna be quite awkward next time we meet. I will just try to peretend nothing has ever happen.

Thanks a lot for your advice

[nedjma95]

If has been months then its fine but she needs to know that you have nothing for her , so she wont be waiting and hoping
Next time you see her just be nice and brief , dont ask her to many questions , or show your interested . If she asks you questions , just be nice and answer them , but be brief in a nice way . And if she still inersted just be very clear about it , In a very nice way
she'll thank you one day ou ma tadish da3ouet ech'arr

[k_s]

True I will see what to do with this delicate case.
Thanks again.