Algerian Men

[Sweeter_Pea]

I heard that they beat you if you don't listen

[Sweeter_Pea]

I think you understood the culture a little better you would understand. It is not as it is in western world, you have a fiance or a wife, not a girlfriend. How was he supposed to explain a girlfriend to his family?

It sounds like you only wanted the kids to have the toys and outfits if they KNEW it was from you, that is not the true spirit of giving is it?

"Im so insulted" The great Algerian man I thought I had went back to Algeria for his sisters wedding. Before he left he told me about his niece and newfew ( 4 and 9months). So I went out and bought them each outfits and a toy. Spent some money on each of them... And when he got there he called me and said that they really like the presents.. i said oh so you told them about me.. he said "No they think there from Me"..... what an Ass.. If I had known that he was going to do that I wouldnt of got them...

[Diva007]

Can I ask you a question then.. If you met a man that wanted to know your family asked questions about your family and then insisted meeting them and be introduced as your "boyfriend".. and everything was great.. in the mean time told you all about his and how he was excited about telling his family about you and accepted the gifts telling you that there going to love them and that his family be thankful.. When you next talk to him from home he sounds blank not even the same..quiet, distant.. but truthful in telling you "I havent told them about you but they liked the gifts.. I told them that they were from me though... Im not so much insulted about "gift" material.. but yet I felt it was a way for me to be introduced in a postive manner, knowing it was going to be difficult for him. But it was his idea from this end of the ocean for me to be known about ... but when he crosses over its completly different...? and Yes if i buy something for someone I like to be acknowledged for it ... inless i knew ahead of time that it was a surprize... I dont go around being a third party gift giver...!!!

[Sweeter_Pea]

There are cultural differences that you need to understand. Algeria is not like the Canada where one dates and introduces boyfriends/girlf friends to the family. When one intends to marry then their significant other and their families are introduced.

Does it really matter that his family doesn't know that the gifts are from you? He knows and that should be enough.

[Diva007]

The gifts dont bother me anymore I got over that very quickly.. But why come to Canada and live under one set of rules and go back to Algeria and abide by another... Im one for if you believe in something its the same no matter where you are in the world or who your with..

[Sweeter_Pea]

Well then, I'm afraid there is nothing any of us can say that will help you to stop making mountains out of mole hills.

[Diva007]

"Quickly, bring me a beaker of wine, so that I may wet my mind and say something clever." Aristophanes