Having it all: Why smart men marry smart women

[Nectar77]

Since we are at it Nectar the only difference between a "smart" and a non-smart girl, is that the later does not think she is smart

Hmmm...the latter shouldn't think she's smart 'cos she isn't

The smart girl always knows how to be humble in situations where she is with non-so smart people and she has the ability to adapt to the level of the conversation and the people without showing off or embarassing anyone. Now that's being smart AND humble and about an hour later they'd start to realise her "calibre" so they'd either appreciate her and her nature or....something else would happen....TRUE STORY

This is not my story BTW- am speaking in general.

[cheezcake]

why is everyone talking about IQ numbers? uni grades and being doctors ..etc

smartness of a wife or husband lies in always finding a better way to live and improving the couple's life and building it in the best possible way!ie: house, children, career, le savoir vivre! and a lot more...it's not about showing off and competing who could be more humble (ie: smarter!)than the other, that does not lead to a healthy relationship! and unfortunately is a typical dz behaviour!

mind you there are sooo many smart guys and girls who have very high degrees, are very down to earth and unfortunately get stamped to being niyya or silly but those people could make the best family ever! wal3aqs sahih

"Intelligence is the ability to respond successfully to new situations and the capacity to learn from one's past experiences.... Intelligence depends on the context, the tasks, and the demands that life presents to us and not on an IQ score, a college degree, or a prestigious reputation" ~ thomas armstrong

[cheezcake]

Hmmm...the latter shouldn't think she's smart 'cos she isn't

The smart girl always knows how to be humble in situations where she is with non-so smart people and she has the ability to adapt to the level of the conversation and the people without showing off or embarassing anyone. Now that's being smart AND humble and about an hour later they'd start to realise her "calibre" so they'd either appreciate her and her nature or....something else would happen....TRUE STORY

This is not my story BTW- am speaking in general.

your true story is very common one hun but when they realise her she could be mistaken for an upherself woman just because an hour is not enough to know how smart is the girl unless she does send signals purposely for that which deprive her from the quality of being humble!!!

how many women/men seem to be smart at the beginning but eventually turn up to be la3binha just to attract people.

balance is very important in relationships...

[mohovitch]

who is thomas armstrong?

[cheezcake]

hahahaha a writer and a philosopher

[NinaGucci]

Hi Nina, we have never 'spoken' before
I couldn't agree more with the above statement....so TRUE!!
Is it a control thing? Or is it just because they're not strong enough MEN to handle an educated girl, who has control over her life, independant (financially and otherwise) and knows what she wants...and what's with the age gap?? I find it very disturbing, bordering on incest/paedophilia...
And that is why am still single

My TWO CENTS BY NECTAR77

i agree with you too, this is my personal opinion, but of course, those guys we're talking about will not like it.
sincerely, that s what i find so frustrating, being young, educated, independant and experienced a little bit in life and the men, just hate it. only my male friends like it, but no one would go out with a woman like me.
today, a man that i decided to get to know, and with whom i have been talking for a few weeks now, and to whom i have given some private details about my life, told me that he does not wish to know me more, anymore, why? because i told him about some little mistakes that i have done in the past, and i wanted to be honnest with him before we get to know each other more. in the meantime, i was also talking about my long education background...etc and life story, but you know, nothing mattered anymore, it s like all the things we build are gone away once this supposingly educated man knows that you made some mistakes in the past. so, the question is, how educated do you have to be to finally be considered as a proper educated man? is this book talking about real educated men, or fake educated men? and do you have the right to make little mistakes and still be considered as an educated woman?
i think this book is talking about university educated men and women and not universaly educated men and women. men only go to university to be called educated, but women, ah hah... in our bloody society, they need to be home educated to be call educated women!
Men, please, you are the best people to know that the world is a dangerous place, so, please, stop judging women, who do their best to survive and who succeed in this, on minor futilities that every human being can do.

[Bent_Bladi]

men only go to university to be called educated, but women, ah hah... in our bloody society, they need to be home educated to be call educated women!

In that world, I've failed all my classes and dropped out of "schooling"...

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But seriously though, being academically educated is only one small part of being "smart". I think men/women have to be able to respect one another and make wise and mature descisions before they are considered "smart".