The men women see as too good to be true

[Al-khiyal]

· Success and good looks a turn-off in marriage stakes

· Psychologists point to fear of desertion or infidelity

The sweet smell of success may be the kiss of death for men who hope to get hitched, according to psychologists. When it comes to marriage material, women are wary of good-looking high-fliers, and are drawn to less successful men instead, they claim.

The subtle shift in women's preferences emerged during psychological tests at the University of Central Lancashire. The researchers behind the studies believe women may subconsciously steer clear of attractive, high-status men because they fear they are either more likely to be unfaithful or will devote too little time to the relationship and future family.

To test the influence of a man's status on his marriage potential, Simon Chu and his colleagues created fictional personal ads, accompanied by pictures of men previously ranked as either unattractive, moderately attractive or very attractive.

The adverts included common phrases from lonely hearts columns and information about the men's careers, using Office of National Statistics criteria to assign jobs of high, medium or low status. The highest status jobs included company directors and architects, medium status jobs included teachers and travel agents, while waiters and postmen were among the lowest status jobs.

The adverts were shown to classes of 186 women who were asked to rank the men according to their appeal as a long-term partner. While better looking men fared better than uglier ones, the most successful and handsome men did not come out tops. Instead, women ranked them as low as the poorest men, preferring instead men with more modest jobs. The psychologists believe the women may see good-looking, successful men as too good to be true.

"Given a choice between the attractive males, there does appear to be a rather subtle preference on the part of the females for males of a lesser status and likelihood of infidelity or desertion," the researchers write in the journal Personality and Individual Differences. "Females may be slightly adjusting their preferences away from males who are potentially more likely to cheat."

An alternative explanation, they add, is that high-fliers might be viewed as less willing to put effort into a relationship and family. "Having a partner who is able to spend time raising children is clearly an advantage," they say.

The men women see as too good to be true

[Al-khiyal]

Personality and Individual Differences

[Bent_Bladi]

lool!!!!

Successful or not - when it comes to Arab guys - there is no hope for anyone. The only way they can be handled is under a complete and total female dictatorship.

[Cheba_Mami]

i'd feel for equality.

but nature even is unfair and besides... two captains on one ship....will make it sink!

let the lady rule and let the gentlemen THINK he rules

[Bent_Bladi]

let the lady rule and let the gentlemen THINK he rules

LOOOOOOOOL

u know, that's how it is. I have a friend who does this hilarious thing whenever she wants something. she goes to her dad and tells him her idea, then makes it sound like the idea came from him... then she emphasizes how great it is (especially since it's "his" idea). omg - her dad says "yeah, it is a good idea -- go ahead"...

hehehe

[Cheba_Mami]

yes, it does work sometimes eh?

* some men are too good to be true, but its a rare species.

same for some women by the way,only they seem to be present more, especially the succesful ones.

[amalgamate]

"Although the man is the head of the house, the female is the neck that turns the head which ever way she wants."




I wonder about the statistics concerning Muslim families- the choices lean more towards the higher-ranking man. it's a source of pride for the family.