Women against Fraud

[Bent_Bladi]

Salamaat ya banaat! This is very important. Read it all and take it very seriously.

PLEASE READ THIS AND PASS ALONG.
FROM: Women Against Fraud

There have been CONFIRMED reports of the following incident that has taken place recently:

A 26 year-old pediatrician, from Derby, England, using the name Zakarriya Waqar Uddin and Abdul Ghani, contacted sisters through Facebook using a shadow account by the name of 'Misbah Muben' to talk to them for 'marital purposes'. Misbah Muben was set up as a female account with no photographs and 'she' would add many individuals from the U.S., Canada, and U.K. to 'her' circle of friends without knowing them personally. After the individuals accepted 'her' as a friend, Zakarriya would use this account to search through the circuit until he came upon a sister he was interested in.

He would then use the account to contact them, posing as 'Sister Misbah' and would recommend they talk to 'the brother of her best friend' (Zakarriya). 'She' conveyed basic information about him, such as being a hafiz of Qur'an and a very good brother with a good family and active in the deen. It was also relayed that he would come to complete a medical residency program in
Pediatrics in Chicago.

If the girl accepted, Zakarriya would then directly initiate contact, send many 'casual' pictures of him and his family, and aggressively pursue the girl. During the course of the talks, he is also reported to have 'killed off' family members to gain sympathy, such as saying his mother or father had passed away recently, or his eldest sister and brother in law died in a car accident. He also talks of a nephew, 'Ahmed' who resides in Egypt with his middle sister and abusive husband whom he cares deeply about. In this maniacal manner, he gains much sympathy and trust from the sisters and continues to lure them. When asked whether his parent(s) would communicate with the sister's parents, he would excuse himself and come up with ways to avoid the interaction.

Although his exact motives are unclear, it is very evident that he has communicated with MANY sisters and has abused them by manipulating their emotions. In certain cases, he has allegedly gotten sisters to send him pictures without hijab, exploiting a minor difference of opinion among scholars regarding a matter that is utterly irrelevant when parents or guardians are 'not' involved. He has also used cultural (or dogmatic) interpretations of certain hadiths about non-mahram interactions to get active muslimahs to abandon their work for non-profit organizations and masajid due to their encounters with men.

Whether or not he has contacted you, this individual may have been able to browse through hundreds of accessible profiles, including yours, especially if privacy settings were not set conservatively.

As women, we're supposed to be blessed with great instincts and an ability to see people with greater depth. This message is being sent to warn you of such predators, even within the Muslim community, astagfirullah. We should NEVER let our greatest assets become our vulnerabilities. Please pass this information along and if you or ANYONE you know is talking to someone that
may fit this description even slightly, please contact amatulqahir@hotmail.com IMMEDIATELY!

Insha'Allah, Zakarriya will face consequences in this life and the next; however, we must do our part. We need to compile testimonies from any woman this person has come in contact with. These testimonies will be kept anonymous. Please help us in SPREADING THE WORD and RESPONDING BACK with information regarding your encounter with this individual if one has occurred. It is still probable that he will be coming to the U.S. for the program mentioned above.

If this person does come to the U.S., he will most likely face close supervision by the FCC.

The Federal Communications Commission (FCC) is an independent United States government agency, directly responsible to Congress. The FCC was established by the Communications Act of 1934 and is charged with regulating interstate and international communications by radio, television, wire, satellite and cable. The FCC's jurisdiction covers the 50 states, the District of Columbia, and U.S. possessions.


EVERY WOMAN CAN ENGAGE IN THE FOLLOWING BEST PRACTICES TO AVOID SITUATIONS SUCH AS THIS (INSHA'ALLAH):

- Never add a person to your circle of friends if you do not truly know them

- Always have your parents involved from the BEGINNING

- Request the brother to talk to your Wali, Imam, or a trusted elder FIRST!

- DO RESEARCH! Ask around about the brother and find out who he knows and what he is involved in. You will be surprised how fast information travels and what people know about their neighbors, friends, and acquaintances.

- DO NOT BE AFRAID TO ASK! The more questions you ask, the more you know, simple as that.

- TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!!!!!!!!!! This is absolutely the MOST Important tip to remember. Your instincts are a Divine gift; trust them, trust them, trust them!

- IF IT'S TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE...you know the saying...IT PROBABLY IS! If someone shows sudden interest and seems to be the 'perfect' match, you need to make sure the facts back up the fairytale.

In the Quran we read: "They are your garments and Ye are their garments" (2:187)

If he is not befitting of YOU, and displays any dangerous pre-marital behavior, forget it and have sabr, insha'Allah. And Jabir (radhiallaho anho) narrates that the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) also gave these instructions in his sermon during the Farewell Pilgrimage. "Fear Allah regarding women; for you have taken them (in marriage) with the trust of Allah. (Sahih Muslim)

Violating the sanctity of marriage, even before making the commitment to wed a person, is a grave sin and we need to make it loud and clear that it will NOT be tolerated.


May Allah(SWT) protect all of our daughters, sisters, and mothers. Ameen!

Girls - even if the guy comes "as a friend" and he's just like a "brother" to you... Never fully trust him - treat him like you'd treat any guy off the streets.

~BB

[Cheba_Mami]

How people can lie This is very important information for all ladies.

Especially ladies.

[Bent_Bladi]

people lie cuz they have no souls