Wedding stories... Let's have some

[Bent_Bladi]

whoa nesreen... that's AWESOME! haha, I remember when I was a little kid, my sister and I would always talk about having three weddings, one here, one in Syria and one in Palestine

It's good that your family finally excepted your husband... My family (mom's side) is sort of like that. Forget Indian - if I was to marry a non-Shami then I'd face some serious and completely unnecessary drama. It's happened several times and they still haven't learned their lessons

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Sonya --- once again, mabrouk to you and your husband... I hope you have the most amazing time in Algeria.

[nesreen]

Bent Bladi
when I lived in Morocco (11 years ) mom visited every year and sister too. they had no Visa cards and Algerian dinars were not accepted in Moroccan shops so every time they came hubby would hand me a fat envellope for them to shop and do all they wanted . I also used my visa cards for their shopping too. Hubby took them to the social clubs where we were members , to restaurants , sightseeings etc...... mom also noticed how i had some help around the house so i could take them out and be free to do anything else with kids et.. so she started seeing how happy i was and free and how comfortable i lived , because unfortunately many of my cousins had difficult husbands either stingy jealous or violent and someone who had mistresses etc.. she finally realised marrying an Algerian would not automatically mean i would be happy . it is a lottery i could be but i could be also miserable . so she finally accepted him and appreciated his kind nature .


sonya : Congratulations hope your happiness continues forever inshallah .

[SonyaM]

Inshallah you will continue to have a happy and successful marriage Nesreen. Hamdulilah it all worked out with your family.

Shukran for your words of congrats and good luck for my marriage also.

Where do you live now Nesreen? (If you don't mind me knowing.) You can pm if you would prefer. Xx

[Bent_Bladi]

Bent Bladi
when I lived in Morocco (11 years ) mom visited every year and sister too. they had no Visa cards and Algerian dinars were not accepted in Moroccan shops so every time they came hubby would hand me a fat envellope for them to shop and do all they wanted . I also used my visa cards for their shopping too. Hubby took them to the social clubs where we were members , to restaurants , sightseeings etc...... mom also noticed how i had some help around the house so i could take them out and be free to do anything else with kids et.. so she started seeing how happy i was and free and how comfortable i lived , because unfortunately many of my cousins had difficult husbands either stingy jealous or violent and someone who had mistresses etc.. she finally realised marrying an Algerian would not automatically mean i would be happy . it is a lottery i could be but i could be also miserable . so she finally accepted him and appreciated his kind nature .

Nice... Allah yi khaleelek jozek wi kater min amthalo

Oh, haha - on my mom's side it's different.... for them, they want me to marry a Syrian so I can keep visiting each summer

Heck, even if I end up w/ a non-Syrian -- I'll drag him with me there every summer, 3ajabo 3ajabo - ma 3ajabo, Allah ma3o

[nesreen]

Oh, haha - on my mom's side it's different.... for them, they want me to marry a Syrian so I can keep visiting each summer

and that's the reason why my husband was not accepted , marrying a foreigner meant leaving the country and the parents won't see much of me and they'll be missing the grand children and not part of their lives, nor see them grow , nor spend Eid and happy celebrations together etc... i understood that when i had the children and when i often cried during Eid and Ramadan . IF i knew all this before i would have made a decision probably to stay home, even if i love my husband very much .

[Bent_Bladi]

Ah.... well everybody has to make sacrifices...

Just think - would your children's lives be as good as they are now if they were living in Algeria? Sure, they'd spend time with their family but maybe their education would suffer, or maybe when they grew older they'd have a harder time finding a job.

My mom went through the same thing (but alhamdulilah her family loved my dad)... Out comes this Palestinian guy from America - meets my mom and they're engaged/married within a week. It was SOOOOOOO quick and sudden to her family (and to her)... but for some reason everyone was alright with it... everything went "perfectly" (as perfect as reality permits ). I guess that's just what you call Naseeb.

My dad once told me this (and it scared the living CRAP out of me )... "You'll only spend 1/4 of your life with your parents, the rest will be with your husband and children"

.... Now if I find a way to live til 1000, then I'm all set

[NoonaElMajnoona]

Oh, haha - on my mom's side it's different.... for them, they want me to marry a Syrian so I can keep visiting each summer

Heck, even if I end up w/ a non-Syrian -- I'll drag him with me there every summer, 3ajabo 3ajabo - ma 3ajabo, Allah ma3o

LooooL - Bent-Bladi, my mum is exactly the same. Whenever id pose the idea of marrying a non-Moroccan, she'd always put across her argument of ''You'll never be able to visit Morocco every summer like you do now''.

She got her wish in the end though...Im happily married to a loooovely Moroccan man.