El Fatiha - Info Please!

[rose]

here in Algeria, el fatha is like katb el kitab at the orient. It is the base of the marriage.

True-in Algeria, they do it all in one go, not "promise to marry him" that is generally just accepting to marry him(the engagement). El Fatiha is usually done a week before the wedding party.

[nouha]

True-in Algeria, they do it all in one go, not "promise to marry him" that is generally just accepting to marry him(the engagement). El Fatiha is usually done a week before the wedding party.

i think it depends on the fam... my aunt did a fatiha (not kitb al kitab) as an engagement thing, then they did the kitb al kitab, henna, wedding etc and all the other fifty parties that come with it ahahhahaha

[KENZA GIRL]

do you think he will stay with you after he has received permanent residency? most algerian men leave their western wife after they have want they want.

[Al-khiyal]

Oran :
Le mariage par la fatiha ou la face cachée d'une pratique controversée

[Felicity]

so the moral of the story... make sure you do the fatiha with lots of witnesses and an official... and make sure you have a date ready for the legalization of the marriage? Because if you don't have officials, and its not legalized, there are some tricksters out there who will use women. Thats a happy thought *eek*
(this is my very small rough translation of that article, after i used google translations, yay google, and yay al-khiyal for finding it, it was very interesting)

[CrazyCdn]

Thanks to all of you that helped me with info! My el-fatiha is now only 2 months away and I cannot wait to go and see Algeria.

[Felicity]

so back to that article that al-khiyal posted - I was talking to my man about it, and he was saying how the el fatiha, without the legalization, isn't a real marriage (obviously), so for the people in the article who were married for 10 years odd, what they were doing was haram (dont know how to spell that word). Do other people agree with that? I mean, don't want to get into too much detail, but does that mean after the el fatiha, the wife should be proforming all her duties (cooking and whatever else), or by doing that, and the el fatiha not actually being able to stand on its own as a marriage thing, does that mean the couple would be sinning, carrying on like if they were man & wife? I hope people who read this understand what I'm asking, and don't get offended. Or were the people who were getting married in that manner, not strict Muslims anyway?