English women with Algerian men

[Tipaza]

... funny patronizing tone ... especially when it comes from someone who has been to Algeria ...

[Serenity]

Assalamualaikum my sisters!

I just had to add to UmmHarith's great comment :

''But the one thing that have to say that Algerian men will marry anyone for any culture they just don't stick to their own which i think is wonderful and the majority of women do become Muslim, they are not prejudice or racist in this respect, and more and more British women are becoming Muslim and marrying really pious practicing Algerian men like mine Mashaa Allah!''

This is very true not just with Algerian men but North African or any other type of African man in general. I do know a few mixed algerian/english married families and culture is not a hindrance in any way for them. Also my last proposal was from an algerian man , and all he cared about was my personality and Islam , not looks , not culture ( I am of Indonesian descent). However couldn't marry him due to the circumstance at the time .

I find north Africans incredibly hospitable and open , just like how all the muslims of the ummah should be. Unfortunately tribal/caste/social status differences seem to matter to other muslims from certain sections of some cultures including my own.

So big-up to algerians!

[Tipaza]

I sometimes wonder what OUR Algerian guys find in such show off and full of themselves BLONDE chicks (of course they are ALL blonde, aren't they ? )

PS: And all Algerian women are frizzy black haired, ugly and fat, aren't they ?

PPS: And don't you dare preach me ! La religion a bon dos !

[flossboss]

up until march this year i was a lost, confused, out of control 16 year old 'christian' teenager.. drinking at every chance i could and getting high as much as possible, previously to this i had always found interest in islaam from when i first started studying it at secondary school, i found myself asking alot of questions about chrisitianity that i couldnt answer, however alsways seemed to find the answer in islaam. i had considered converting but thought to wait as i knew my family would not be accepting of it. (this was about last summer) after that i became stray from the idea and was very distracted after finding out my mum had breast cancer and was becoming sick i went off the rails as a selfish mindless teenager would. In febuary this year, my life began to change after one drunk, crazy night. Me and my friends were drinking alot and were always ending up all over the place. this night in febuary my friend decided we should go to meet a friend of hers, about 2 hours away by car. drunk and ambitious, not quite knowing wheere we would end up we finally ended up at her friends, friends flat, after taking numerous buses, trains and car rides! there were 3 guys at the house- all algerian, one morrocan girl- a friend of thiers and a mixed race girl who was with one of the algrian guys, plus the three of us. my friend was all over the guy she knew and I became close with the guy who the flat belonged to. we were all drinking accept the guy i was with, who had just been smoking alot of weed. after that night, i thought not much of it... just another mad drunk night, and i thought it muct have been the same for the guy i got with, thinking he must have loads of partys like that, it was nothing special just another party night for all of us. however, i did keep in contact with him and we returned to a few more parties there with the same people, again all drinking accept him who was onnly smoking. after a while he asked me to come and stay without my friends, just come alone me and him. so i did, i had a good feeling about him and hadnt wanted to be with someone as much as him before-id never been one to want a relationship. after going to stay with him again and again, a few times a week for about 2 months, things began to get more seious between us and i realised that i hadnt been drinking since i started going to see him alone, i was just spending time with him at any chance i could. he told me how he had stopped smoking weed and having parties at his house and wanted to become a better person. after a while, we just became really close friends and by may this year i was just going to see him to spend time with him and we even slpet in separate beds. towards june, we started having convosations about religion and as we had become such good friends, i opened up to him about how i had been confused about christianity and had thought about converting before, he was really shocked about it and wanted to do the right thing and help me. after me stopping drinking and partying since febuary i was lost with studies, not doing well and was looking for guidance. i was starting to see sense, mashallah. i began asking him alot of questions about religion and he was telling me all about his past and how he felt so bad for being a bad person in the past and smoking weed and having so many parties, he said when he met me, he saw good in me and it encouraged him to stop and become a good muslim again, which he had gone off the rails a bit after coming to england when he was 16 in 2006. i was shocked at what he was telling me and i cnt explain but something inside me has changed since i converted in late june2010. i feel like a clean person and like i have purpose in life and for that i will be eternally greatful for him helping me find my way. he kept asking me if i was sure i wanted to convert and i reassured him again and again yes yes yes yes yes yes yes , its like there was nothing else i would rather do more, its a feeling that ill never be able to explain. after helping me, he told me to watch out for guys wanting to marry me and to be careful and make sure i chose the right guy.. about a week after i converted, we were talking on the phone and he told me to stop coming to see him as it wasnt right that we were spending time with eachother and i remmeber him asking me.. can you do something for me? .. can you live without me? after that i didnt know what to say and the thought of never seeing him again ripped me apart, i didnt eat for days, just thinking how hard things would be without him to talk to and be there for me like he had been so much. i replied to his question a few days later with ' no , i cant live without you.' and he tried to ensure me tha i could and it would be the right thing to do for both of us. i listened to what he had to say and followed his advice. we stopped talking for abou a week, which seemed like a year after talking to him everyday before then. he said to me that he couldnt stop thinking about me and he couldnt just forget about eerything, i told him that i felt exactly the same and asked him what we should do. we both went to see and imam for guidance, who told us that if we really want to be together then we should marry. ofcourse we followed the imams advice and married after i went to be with him for one week. i went to stay there because the week before ( mid july) my mum had tried to kill herself after me telling her that i had converted to islaam, my whole family went out of control and told me that if i didnt change my mind then i was no longer welcome in the house. i tried to reason with them, help them and help them see what i was feeling, but like i said, its a feeling that ill never be able to explain. they sent me away and i told them that i was going to live with a guy that i knew. ( they didnt really know much of him) i went to stay with him and the day i arrived, we took up the imams advice and became islaamically married, we both felt very content with our decision after and felt like we no longer were doing the wrong thing and could be togther happily and correctly. that week, my mum got the police involved and changed her mind, deciding she wanted me home, so a week later i returned home, proudly wearing a hijab, happier then i had been for years. my mum said she hadnt seen me so happy in so long and i think she began to relaise how much islaam had become to mean to me. it is now coming towards the end of september and i am 17, a married, happy muslim and have recently found out that i am 11 weeks pregnant from the week we got married. i was shocked to start with as it was very unexpected, but after speaking to him,, he has come around to the idea and cant wait to be a family. i have handed in my nitoce at my part time work and it is my last day this week, at the end of next week, i plan on moving to be with him, where we can be togther as a family, my mum said i should because shes not going to support me if i stay and he desperatley wants me to go so that he can look after both me and the baby as he should. im so excited and have never been happier, i feel as if this year has completely changed my life and for the better, i feel like im doing the right thing and keeping close to Allah with my prayers, im hoping things will stay looking up for the both.. or should i say 3of us. i know in the past i was very foolish, please dont judge me on how i use to be, i can honestley say i am a changed person and i do regret being the person i use to be, however i didn learn alot from my mistakes, and if i hadnt have made them, i would never have met my husband. we are now planning a life together and i really cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with him and be a good wife and parent to my husband and child. like i said, i feel like i really am doing the right thing here but coming from a christian, english family surrounded by white non muslim opinions and thoughts, not one of them has congratulated me or reassured me. i know its a shock to everyone, but sometimes its just nice to know your not alone and that your doing the right thing, so i guess thats what im looking for here.. any comments would be greatly appreciated and if anyone has anymore questions, id be happy to answer. as-salaam-alaikum.

[Serenity]

Salam new sister!

I was very intrigued reading your story and am genuinely happy that you have found so much positivity since becoming a muslim. All I can say is keep striving to be a better muslim, it doesn't matter what you did before because you have a clean slate now. You know alot of the sahabahs the close companions of the prophet (saw) converted from jahaliyah but were the best of people because they knew what life is like not being a muslim.

Just want to wish you all the very best and hope that immersing yourself in your deen becomes easier Inshallah. Marshallah the fact that you have married you have already completed half your deen. What can I say Marshallah I am very happy for you.

Keep making dua for your family to come round Inshallah. I also think its a good idea to be in contact with convert sisters from a mosque so you have that feeling where you are able to relate to people with your experience, effectively strengthening your iman.

Welcome to the forum.

Wasalaam xxx

[anon13]

Its good to read good stories about marrying algerians. I got married to an algerian aout 4 years ago. Although things were well to begin with they soon started to go downhill as he began to change. Always going out with friends, smoking weed, losing his temper more. As a british individual I never thought I would put up with this from anyone but I just can't give up on my marriage. I live in hope that things will get better.

Although it is nice to hear about marriages to algerian men that are happy and that do work but there is also a small percentage where things just don't turn out the way you expected.

[caz100]

Whilst recently visiting a friend in Dubai I met an Algerian man. He is nearly 10 years younger. After he almost relentlessly pursued me for a couple of days I met up with him, my friend and his a couple of times. He was rather full on, saying that he loved me, i was the most beautiful woman and so on. As a British women I was understandably dubious! He even mentioned marriage! He is very keen for me to live in Dubai, although without work this could be rather difficult. It is clear he does not intend to live in the UK and whilst Muslim is clearly a modern man with a good job in Dubai. I made it clear I was not rich and I was not interested in sleeping with him or anyone else for that matter. Whilst in Dubai I dressed according to their etiquette and if I am honest gave him the brush off, as I didn't know what to think. We have kept in touch and he continues in similar vein about loving me and wanting me to live in Dubai. I am visiting again in a weeks time and I am not sure if I should meet up with him. As a British women we often hear of stories of men saying such things for sex, money or a visa and I really don't know what to think. Any advice would be welcome as I am not familiar with Algerian men. He seems genuine and talked about his family, his brother and his brother's wife who is American thanks