I need an advice please!!

[heidivcg]

Salam Aliukum !!

I am Heidi and I need advice, 1 month ago my ex-husband's mother passed away, she die, so he went to algeria to the funeral, but my problem is I don't know what I have to tell him, I told him if he needs help I am here, but he is like mad, I want ask him about everything but he doesn't talk to much, when he gave me the news, my expression was like scare and almost I was crying, but when he listened to me he was angry and he told me: please, please, don't start ok, very angry and upset, so after I called him again and I was quiet and just I say: If you need something I am here, now he is coming back soon and I don't know how to talk to him and I don't know how to ask about everything and how he feels, so just I want support him and I want to show him like I am with him and if he needs a shoulder to cry on he has mine, so please if somebody knows the way how I have to speak, please I will appreciate, I am Mexican and muslim, but I don't have so much experience for these things.

Inshalla everything is ok. Thank u everybody

HEIDI VCG

[FunGirl_London]

Hi Heidi,

Can't believe noone attempted to help!!

Listen sis, men in general don't like to feel you pity them. so don't show him that you feel sorry!
2nd, give him time to grieve and don't start a discussion about any subject he doesn't like (including his mother's death) unless he opens it.

3rd sweetheart... you said that he is your ex-husband.. but i feel that you still care, that's nice BUT he might think that u r using the actual situation to have him back... no harm in that (especially if u have kids) but u should not pressure him n play the game correctly.

stick by him in this difficult moment, he will heal i'm sure and he will appreciate i hope, but don't expect much so u avoid disappointment.

[BACK2MYROOTS]

I'm RIGHT BEHIND YOU FunGIRL_London !



Here we go again, another poor soul wasting her life away with a bad apple!

Heidi, it's been 5 or 6 weeks since your ex's mother passed away. You did the decent thing, offering him comforting words and a 'shoulder to cry on' as you said. And what was his reply??? Pure ingratitude and bad temper. How can you continue to have feelings for a guy like that? Grrrrrr!

It's time to face the ugly truth heidivcg,

HE DOESN'T CARE

Why should you continue to show sympathy for him?

Move on girl!

Life's too short.

B2MR