Bezness

[Felicity]

So I was on a different forum, and i saw the word 'bezness' mentioned, and I had never heard of the word before, but after finding out what it meant, I had of course heard of the concept. I often read about other peoples relationships on various forums, and I suppose in the end it all comes down as having to trust your partner, and having to trust that they are a good human being to get over any kinda doubt you may have. Most people seem to not want to offend by not judging other peoples relationships when they are between western woman and north african, turkish etc men, but I found a website which discusses bezness fairly frankly.... I have no idea if its a 'good' website, meaning if its reliable information, but I thought I'd share it because i found it very interesting, and there really weren't that many (easily found) websites about bezness... so.. here... any thoughts? Is this a 'reliable' interpretation of some relationships? (trying not to step on peoples toes too much of course).

PS - Al-Khiyal, if you think this will offend too many people, please remove it and I will understand.

[BACK2MYROOTS]

Why would anyone censor this Felicity? It's a very legitimate concern. It is a far bigger issue in our neighbouring countries, to mention no names, because their economies depend so much on tourism. You'll be surprised how common this is in some African countries where preying on 'innocent' lonely middle aged European ladies is very common. Really sad. I've seen a couple of programmes on Cable about this. Very muddy water...

[Felicity]

But it isn't necessarily only involving tourism I think, like the webpage states "In a narrower sense, the term is used for the pretention of love feelings toward women with the sole objective of gaining financial or material benefits or a residence permit in a western country, preferably Europe".

I saw a programme on Sky travel 1 called something like 'turkish wives' (i was channel surfing) and that had a woman who was about 50 and the guy who was maybe 30? They had gotten married etc etc and they seemed really happy together, lots of lovingly sarcastic comments to each other (good old fashioned banter), and I thought, maybe it was genuine? But by looking at that website it probably wasn't genuine? And then although its talking about tourism, when you look at internet relationships, how can the warning signs not apply (age, marital status, fondness of food/ slow metabolism)?

[BACK2MYROOTS]

It's good to be aware, isn't it? There are so many easy preys, sadly. It's a jungle out there. What can you do? Take hundreds of precautions and one step at a time, that's all we can do. People who are desperately lonely, or eager to get into a loving relationship often throw essential precautions out of the window. There's always a price to pay for that.

[Al-khiyal]

Sand in der Seele von Evelyne Kern

Dieser Roman ist die tragische Geschichte einer Frau, die von einem Unglück in das andere stürzt:
Von dem Stress einer kaputten Ehe und dem nervenaufreibendem Job als Journalisten belastet, reist sie, um ein wenig abzuschalten, kurzentschlossen nach Tunesien. Dort trifft sie auf den Mann, der ihr ganzes Leben verändert. Der schöne Araber Amor sieht sie und weiß, sie wird seine Frau. Anfällig für schöne Worte unterliegt sie seinem Charme und verliebt sich in ihn. Ein Jahr später gibt sie ihre sichere Existenz in Deutschland auf, bringt ihre Ersparnisse nach Tunesien, baut dort ein wunderschönes Haus am Meer und heiratet ihre anscheinend große Liebe. Doch Amor hat sie schändlich belogen und betrogen. Er hat sie nur wegen der deutschen Staatsangehörigkeit und anderer Vorteile, die er und seine Familie sich versprochen hatten, geheiratet. Aus purer Angst, zutiefst verletzt und gedemütigt muss sie schließlich ihr Traumhaus verlassen, und ein harter Kampf gegen einen riesigen arabischen Familienclan beginnt... Der Autorin ist es gelungen, einen mitreißenden und spannenden Roman zu schreiben, der voller erschreckender Überraschungen steckt und sowohl stilistisch als auch strukturell gut ist. Der Leser kann die Emotionen der Protagonistin im verzweifelten Kampf um ihre Rechte in einem frauenfeindlichen Land sehr gut mitfühlen. Dieser Roman bietet eine außergewöhnlich anregende Unterhaltung.

[BACK2MYROOTS]

Ironically, I bumped into this quote today:

" If women can fake an orgasm, men can fake whole relationships!"

Please don't have nightmares over it...

[Al-khiyal]

CiB e.V.

Community of Interests against Bezness

See 'Die Fakten' for (appalling) English translation