To all you single ladies looking for Mr. Right online

[Serenity]

Assalamulaikum sisters,

Sister Al-khiyal if this is inappropriate in anyway feel free to delete I don't want to cause any offence to the rules of this forum.

Ok ladies as a single 23 year old I have been thinking about marriage for quite a while now. I have come across this site called practimate.com and I have to say there is nothing like it, it's made by sheikh called yasir birjas who has an organisation called the Al-Maghrib Institute in America.

Practimate.com is different because it is not after your money , its there to give online advice to us confused young'uns of the 21st century on how to find a spouse. On their site they have been doing online webinars, forums and vids. But they do have a dvd set which you can opt to buy :P

Anyway for the girls a sister called Megan Wyatt who is an expert in this field gives regular sound advice. She has been regularly updating me through my emails.

This week is about 'How to filter Mr. Wrong' when looking for him online. She stresses the importance of a wali and what subtle yet profound questions you can ask in order to determine whether the guy is a player or serious.

Hope the link works.

The reason why I'm sharing this is because unfortunately alot of girls to fall prey to some bad men.

So let me know what you think

[Al-khiyal]

w/salam, ya Serenity,

Practimate is 'closed' according to a quick search, and the other link you've added here is not to that site. I'll have to delete it - it's a log-in to 'discoverhimonline.com' - whatever that is.

I think my own views on 'online partner hunting' are well known by now.

I think people have to be mentally deficient, gullible, totally ignorant of the level of deceit and abuse online, and completely lacking in any sense of self-protection to engage in such activity. And I really am not joking when I say that. It's the predatory in search of the gullible, and often a 'racket' when it comes to fee-charging websites - some of which are swarming with professional scammers. For every 10 'happy ending' stories anyone wants to come up with - there are thousands and thousands of tales of deceit, abuse and even graver crimes.

[Serenity]

Salam,

ohh noo ok , ahh I think it's because I'm a registered member. oo lil bit strange that practimate.com does not come up on a google search.

''I think people have to be mentally deficient, gullible, totally ignorant of the level of deceit and abuse online, and completely lacking in any sense of self-protection to engage in such activity. ''

haha you are right. But I gotta admit when desperation takes hold , you just lose your senses sometimes and actually go on those sites. I put my hands up I have been checking out singlemuslim.com it's their ads are everywhere its unbelievable. But I'm not a member :P Personally I believe in family networking for finding a spouse. But I just wanted to share this as I thought it may be beneficial to some who are looking online.

ahh shame the link doesn't work

It was really good.

Maybe if I type up the advice by the sister would that be ok?

[Al-khiyal]

w/salam ya Serenity,

A brother here......

Here is what Google gives for your practimate suggestion. Closed.

Take a look >>>here<<< to see some of the 'games' that have been played here in the past - and this isn't even a dating site.

Personally, I think any attempts to direct sisters towards such sites are not the kindest or safest of ways to introduce consideration of the idea of 'safe and respectful relationship'.

'Online dating' is a jungle of shameful deceit, abuse and in many cases outright criminality and anyone using such sites needs their head testing.

P.S. If you're very good I'll tell you another 'Algeria.com story' that demonstrates the perils of 'online hunting'.

[Serenity]

Salam brother,

Ok my intention was not to direct any sister to a dating site. Wallah I was just reccommending a clean site that is not for dating if you don't believe me you can see the site is legitimate created by a trusted sheikh which I have registered to and have been following their advice for some time now.

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I read the furniture guy story and am really shocked that there are actually organised criminals who try to snake their way into good forums like this one.

But I understand this is a serious issue and I did not mean to cause any offence. I am recent member and I do not know the history of what has happened in this forum. I appreciate that you as a brother are just looking out for us sisters. So shukran for that.

p.s. I hope you don't think that I'm a hunter in disguise

[Cheba_Mami]

Salam, a 'chebba' sister here
As many other young women i fully understand you, wanting to find a life partner in a modern way...without the pressure of family etc. and the full ability to choose online. Fast and easy with the help of professionals. I understand, still i want to warn you and other sisters for internetfrauds. The place is full of it! I know some of the thousands of horror stories v.s. the 10 happy endings.

So be careful.
I might sounds overprotective and i have reasons for that. A wise woman does not need a double warning.

Good luck!

Chebba M.

[Serenity]

Salam Sister Cheba_Mami

Thank you for your advice I appreciate that people care for eachother here.

Alhamdulilah I have been very precautious.

I am also relying on close family friend networking for and potential brothers.

I'll update on any breakthroughs eh

Serenity