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    with someone you love (spouse, parent, sibling, children)?. I personnally tell it like it is. I try to be as honest and direct as I can be, but I am finding out that truth can hurt people who are very dear to me and being direct is not always helpful. Wach atkoulou ya djmaa?
    A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty - Mark Bradford.

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    If the person is dear to me I let her / him "win"

    Exception : when he/ she is very wrong

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    • #3
      Originally posted by El_Djazaïr
      If the person is dear to me I let her / him "win"

      Exception : when he/ she is very wrong
      Your solution is nice and humble, but don't you feel a bit hypocrite when your actions and feelings are not the same, just to please others?
      A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty - Mark Bradford.

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      • #4
        I usually try to reason with them and explain logically, I have the gift to simplify things until we both laugh about them...but if they're very wrong and start to bug me I just walk away and leave it until we're both calm.....only if they're dear to me, if it's someone I don't really care about, I will leave them in their ignorance.

        It took me a LONG LONG time to learn this though!! I could never walk away from an argument before, especially when I know am right!
        Nectar77

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Yazou
          don't you feel a bit hypocrite when your actions and feelings are not the same, just to please others?

          At all
          If I choose to let them "win" at a certain level I accept their wish, so no place for bein hypocrite
          At least this is how I see it...

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          • #6
            It's easier to tell the hard ugly truth to someone your level or higher... like a parent/friend/spouse... Because they will listen to you and respect your opinions and critizism. However, it's a pain in the neck to tell someone like a younger sibling/cousin that they're doing something wrong (especially if they like what they're doing). Because they just put their hands over their ears and say "lalala I can't hear you" or "Shut up, what makes you so knowledgable??"

            *Sigh* I guess for those immature people, you have to approach them in a sneaky way and try to fix the problem step by step until in the end, they realise their mistake without you telling them...

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            • #7
              How about avoiding conflicts versus facing them head first and dealing with the conscequences?
              A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty - Mark Bradford.

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              • #8
                What type of conflicts are you talking about, yazou? Methods of avoiding conflicts depend on the type of situation you're trying to evade...

                I say, if there's a conflict that you see needs fixing (but you are ABSOLUTELY certain that if you get involved in it, you won't get hurt *emotionally, etc...* in any way) then go ahead and "dive head first". If there's someone that's just so messed up and he/she might possibly mess you up with them if you interfere... then I say steer clear and try to find someone stronger (or more knowlegable) to help them.

                As for avoiding conflict -- Just follow Allah's laws and you'll be fine... (unless ur talking about government conflict of course... )

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