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  • Missing my husband... :(

    So here I am in England and there he is in Algeria. It has been 5 weeks since I saw him and 11 weeks until I see him again. I am completely and utterly miserable without him. I miss him, I miss my family, I even miss his village (and there is nothing there to miss!). Any suggestions on how to get through this hideous stage? It happens every time I come home, but is seemingly getting worse. Surely after 2 years I should be used to it by now??

    Ideas, similar stories and online shoulders to cry on all gratefully appreciated...

  • #2
    Has he applied for a British visa? I think this time makes you appreciate each other more, and means you are less likely to take each other for granted. You can use this time to organise yourselves in whatever way is required (focus on prayer, working, plans etc).

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    • #3
      we are hopefully applying in feb so getting all the paperwork ready now. He was calling today to find out more about the english language test. We had heard that it can take months to do. I really hope that is not the case. Just so hard when everything you do, you do apart when all you want is to be together. I know we will appreciate it more when it happens though. Thanks for the support. It does mean a lot. x

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      • #4
        its hard i know it took us 10 years to sort out my husband's visa but he came here illegally and then stayed but he had to be careful he couldn't work so i worked and looked after him we married here in the uk and put in an application right away we went through many solicitors until we found a really good one it took about a year with him to get things sorted but it was a bit expensive but after trying for 9 years and not getting anywhere it was worth it you have to tell your self that when it's done that's it then the only time he will leave is to visit his family InshaAllah it will be easier for you and the next 11 weeks goes fast

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        • #5
          I believe it can take a little while for the English test, but at least his English capabailities are not a problem, its good that that is basically a sure thing, so its just another step, rather than a hurdle. From two years of looking at this forum, I would say I've noticed that those who apply in Sept/Oct/Nov applications can take a few months, rather than those who put in their visa application in Jan/Feb can take as little as one month, so perhaps you are helping yourselves unknowingly by not having the hardest wait. I mean, just now you are waiting to see your husband again, but, with God's help, this is a fairly definite thing, where as of course, the visa is never definite, all though I hope you do find some solace(?) in the many many MANY success stories that you can see on this forum.

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          • #6
            Thanks again for all the positive comments. We have had a bit of luck with the English test. He had been told by the only test centre in Algiers that he could do it in Jan, which would have been fine. When he got there today to register and pay, which you have to do 5 weeks before you take the test, he was then told the test dates had changed and he would not be able to do it until mid-Feb, (which would not have been fine!) Luckily he was then told about another test you can take instead of the Cambridge KET test and after a few frantic phone calls to the British Consulate and their visa department, we were told that the other test would be fine, (I think it is a IELTS test for anyone who is interested!) So he has an appointment to do the test on Saturday and that has made me very happy indeed. It is another thing out of the way. I have looked at the papers and it certainly looks like a much more challenging test, but the information might be useful for other people in the same situation. It was the same cost as the KET test, (14,000dz) but it appears there is less of a wait for it. We plod on ever forwards!!

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            • #7
              just wondering if anyone has had a decision on their visas?

              My husband submitted his the end of sept and we are still waiting!
              Do the applications go to the uk?

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              • #8
                I am sure I read on the Worldbridge website that the visa applications go to the UK. But when I spoke to someone at UK Border Agency about the English Test, they said visas in other countries had nothing to do with them and we would have to actually speak to the place where the visa application is submitted. So who knows??
                Sorry you have had to wait so long though.

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                • #9
                  i sent an email to the uk home office and asked um.. who knows, maybe they will giv me some info on my hubby's application.

                  12 weeks is the normal waiting time.

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                  • #10
                    salaam, i need help please, im algerien leaving in england, last year i married a british born woman in the mosque and after that she changed her family name in her passport and everything( bank, work...).and now am planning to go back to ALGERIA to marry her there and apply for a spouse visa, my question is : do the algerien registry office will accept to register our marriage even if we got the same family name??? and here she got the certificat of no impediment to marry ( free to marry) with a married name on it, is that ok??? help please

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                    • #11
                      i think thats either a case of marrying legal bcz i dont think marrying in mosque makes it a legal marriage or its to re-new ur vows.

                      I think you are best going to the registrar and asking him.

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                      • #12
                        I would not worry about the IELTS being hard as they are only required to get a score of 4 I believe, which is not that high (if he can converse with you in English, then I'm sure he'll have no problem at all).

                        I read previously that all applications go to London, and I know two years ago, when my husband applied, it went to London. Some other countries don't go to London, so perhaps it is dependent on the volume of applications etc. I'm suprised they were so unhelpful about the English test, but the UKBA does provide a massive list of all accepted types of english language tests on its website, with the required score.

                        I know of a user on this site whose husband got his visa about two weeks ago, I think that was about a 12 week wait in the end.

                        Why would the Algerian registrars not allow people to marry with the same surname? It must be incredibly common with the many interfamily marriages that go on (5th cousins still having the same surnames etc).

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                        • #13
                          im lucky, my husband didnt have to do the english test. but he gave some evidence of his written english with letters.
                          just the waiting is making me fed up.

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                          • #14
                            He is in Algiers at the moment ready to do the test in the morning. He is incredibly nervous, but he should not be worried. I know he will be fine, but I am not the one who has to do the test. I know I would be nervous too if I was in his place. On most of the websites we were looking at, it only said about the Cambridge test. Knowing how important this is, we just did not want to risk him doing the wrong test and then getting the visa application rejected simply because of this point. That was why I did the ringing round during my lunch hour on Tuesday!

                            There are so many things to do with this whole process which have quite honestly been a real pain, both here and in Algeria. Of course moaning about it does nothing to change the situation, we just have to suck it up and get on with it. Plus it is only going to get harder...

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                            • #15
                              USA Lady dating and Algeria Man

                              Originally posted by AMRWM View Post
                              So here I am in England and there he is in Algeria. It has been 5 weeks since I saw him and 11 weeks until I see him again. I am completely and utterly miserable without him. I miss him, I miss my family, I even miss his village (and there is nothing there to miss!). Any suggestions on how to get through this hideous stage? It happens every time I come home, but is seemingly getting worse. Surely after 2 years I should be used to it by now??

                              Ideas, similar stories and online shoulders to cry on all gratefully appreciated...
                              I been there too. Every time I come back home I am still sad! But why you said there is nothing there to miss? I just curious and will like to know if you been in Algeria and what town if is ok with you to share that info with me. THanks.

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